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Monday, June 16, 2008

The Divvying Up




Well, it's finally all settled. The Trust and the estate. Done. Completed. Available.

The greed has already started to surface a little. The wanting to get greasy paws on the money right away. Wanting to speed up things. Wanting to have cash in hand. Suddenly it feels a little 'dirty'. Things felt so very different when I was dealing with numbers on paper, when it was merely a possibility then a probability. Now it's actually there.

I honour my parents for doing this for us. While I don't 'need' it, there is no doubt that it will make life more comfortable down the road. I suppose my feelings of the apparent greed come from the other two needing it right now. And wanting to spend it, or at least a part of it, on personal extravagances. Neither have had this sort of money available to them before, I just hope they don't end up frittering it, or a good part of it, away. But then, it's none of my business what they choose to do with it. My parents entrusted me to guide the process and ensure fair apportionment. And now I must let go.

It just feels, well, unsavoury to me.



8 comments:

Fusion said...

I know I'll have the same feelings down the road with my sister. In fact it's already started, and my moms still with us...

You've done your part Fiona, just give them their shares with a few wise words, and wash your hands of it.

Veracity said...

You did what you had to do there. All intentions served nicely.

It's true... divvying up fortunes can leave a bad taste in the mouth but it will be transient. I say it's time to enjoy the pluckings with good remembrance...

Jonas said...

It's extraordinarily depressing to contemplate the manifestations of greed exhibited within families.

Extraordinarily depressing...

Deb said...

I'm glad it's done. As for what your brother and sister do with it, you're right, nothing you can do about it.

S'mee said...

Is the State Pension sorted Fi? After I had everything settled, I had a demand from the D.W.P. Because my mother died mid-week, they wanted to claim days back from her pension payment. Luckily, I already had a letter from them to say everything was free and clear.

Fiona said...

I don't envy you that process, John. Yes, I have done all I was charged with doing, I shall bow out graciously :)

Veracity - I know I served my parents well and made sure everything was done as they would have done it themselves. I just wish I hadn't had to do this, quite so soon.

It is, Jonas, it really is. It's not money becoming a bad thing, it's the greed which associates with it.

Hi Deb - boy oh boy, am I ever glad it's over, the start was a very rough ride with the shyster lawyer my mum had chosen. I still need to put in an official complaint about him.

Aaaahhh S'mee, thank you for the reminder. Yes, they had also paid my mum out for a whole period and clawed it back by a direct debit from her bank account in April! I didn't realise they could do that, but they can, apparently. It took me days of wondering how money could have been withdrawn from a frozen account, until I realised it was exactly the amount they said was overpaid!

S'mee said...

Cunning devils Fi, cunning devils! I've just been caught for an over payment from last September. Their mistake but I still was REQUESTED to pay it back.

anna said...

I'm just glad it's finally over.

 

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