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Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Real Love

The Real Thing
Love Should Feel Good
~ Daily OM Inspiration ~

Often in our lives, we fall prey to the idea of a thing rather than actually experiencing the thing itself. We see this at play in our love lives and in the love lives of our friends, our family, and even fictional characters. The conceptualizing, depiction, and pursuit of true love are multimillion-dollar industries in the modern world. However, very little of what is offered actually leads us to an authentic experience of love. Moreover, as we grasp for what we think we want and fail to find it, we may suffer and bring suffering to others. When this is the case, when we suffer more than we feel healed, we can be fairly certain that what we have found is not love but something else.

When we feel anxious, excited, nervous, and thrilled, we are probably experiencing romance, not love. Romance can be a lot of fun as long as we do not try to make too much of it. If we try to make more of it than it is, the romance then becomes painful. Romance may lead to love, but it may also fade without blossoming into anything more than a flirtation. If we cling to it and try to make it more, we might find ourselves pining for a fantasy, or worse, stuck in a relationship that was never meant to last.

Real love is identifiable by the way it makes us feel. Love should feel good. There is a peaceful quality to an authentic experience of love that penetrates to our core, touching a part of ourselves that has always been there. True love activates this inner being, filling us with warmth and light. An authentic experience of love does not ask us to look a certain way, drive a certain car, or have a certain job. It takes us as we are, no changes required. When people truly love us, their love for us awakens our love for ourselves. They remind us that what we seek outside of ourselves is a mirror image of the lover within. In this way, true love never makes us feel needy or lacking or anxious. Instead, true love empowers us with its implicit message that we are, always have been, and always will be, made of love.


Wow. When I read that last paragraph, it just totally describes how I feel. Totally and absolutely.


Jenn said...

Love, real love, to me was best defined when I was a child.

The Velveteen Rabbit.

If only it were that simple.

Anonymous said...

The last paragraph had me smiling :)

Thank you for sharing this.

Zibi said...

Very profound ...

Fiona said...

Jenn.....I never had any love like that as a child. Perhaps that's why I'm so determined to find it in my adulthood. Welcome :)

Oblivion - that last paragraph put into words what I haven't been able to express, indeed what has frustrated me in trying to express. It's the first time I'm feeling it and I know it's the same for you :)

Fiona said...

Zibi - long time no see stranger :)

Dan said...

I agree with everything said here. I think love is the only thing that matters in life. Everything else is a distraction.

Fiona said...

Amen Dan! :)

kimba said...

Nice post ms fi.

Trueself said...

I'll add my voice to the chorus.
That last paragraph was spot on. It says it all and better than I ever could.

Fiona said...

Aye Ms. Kimba, aye. Some things must be shared :):)

Trueself - that's the one that did it for me, it puts into words what I've never been able to say, and am feeling and living right now :)

Fusion said...

Glad you finally posted this Fiona, it's so well said.


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