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Tuesday, August 21, 2007

He Asks




He asks: Will you miss your job?
My truth is: I'll miss some of the people I work with, but not really the work itself.

He asks: Won't you get bored living here compared to where you are now?
My truth is: I want to live there. I want to be with you. I could never be bored being with you.

He asks: Won't you need the satisfaction that the authority of your job gives you?
My truth is: I'd gladly hang up my tights and heels, and with them the shoulder-bending responsibilities. I'd happily work in a job that gives me the most time with you.

He asks: Won't you be lonely when I'm away on business trips?
My truth is: Yes, absolutely. But just imagine the welcome home's we'll have for each other.

I ask: Do you want this as much as I do?
His truth is: Absolutely, yes. We are meant to be together and we will be.

For me, that's all I need to know.

It is, certainly, a big change and I know he worries about me. I'll be going:

  • From a tropical climate, to one where there's lots of snow in winter.
  • From living in a skybox 35 storeys above ground, to having our own house with a yard (a big one if we get our wish).
  • From being part of an Asian lifestyle, to being part of an American one.
  • From being a city gal, to moving to the suburbs.
  • From being a single woman to a married woman, with step-children.
  • From contributing at an international level in a company with some of the best products of its kind in the world, to a smaller job with a much smaller scope.
  • From relying on taxis, to having to learn how to drive (eyes wide!!).
  • From seeing my chosen sister almost daily, to relying on email and phone contact.
  • From having to travel thousands of miles for 20+ hours just to see his face, to waking up with him every morning.

And so much more. Things we probably haven't even realised. All of which is perfectly fine by me, so long as I get to be with the man I love. I welcome each and every change with an open heart and an open mind. I'm not worried at all. I'm excited about the challenges and the opportunities. But most of all, I quite simply can't wait for us to start our life together. It is going to be one hell of a life, well lived, for us both.

And another plus in all this is: If I can wrest him from Rhona's grip, I'll maybe get to have Lupo with us.

17 comments:

Charmed said...

I am happy for you.

deb said...

Love seems to be in the air.

Jac said...

Not to minimize these huge transitions but....
"From a tropical climate, to one where there's lots of snow in winter" -- YOU'LL STEAM UP THE BEDROOM. SO IT'LL FEEL LIKE THE TROPICS!
"From living in a skybox 35 storeys above ground, to having our own house with a yard." YOU'LL BE WALKING ON AIR, SO YOU'LL FEEL SKY HIGH.
"From being part of an Asian lifestyle, to being part of an American one" -- WE'LL FIND YOU AS MUCH DIVERSITY AS YOU NEED.
"From being a city gal, to moving to the suburbs ..From relying on taxis, to having to learn how to drive (eyes wide!!)" WITH YOUR CAR YOU'LL BE A DRIVE AWAY FROM THE BIG CITY. YOU CAN GO ANYWHERE
"From being a single woman to a married woman, with step-children....From contributing at an international level in a company with some of the best products of its kind in the world, to a smaller job with a much smaller scope" BUT YOU'LL BE CONTRIBUTING TO THE WELL-BEING OF THESE KID'S WHO'LL HAVE THE BEST-STEP-MOM IN THE WORLD. EVERYONE CAN BE REPLACED IN A JOB -- NO-ONE CAN BE REPLACED IN A FAMILY!

"From seeing my chosen sister almost daily, to relying on email and phone contact." YOU'LL HAVE NEW SISTERS HERE, AND SHE'LL COME AND BE A PART OF OUR NEW LARGER FI FAMILY.
"From having to travel thousands of miles for 20+ hours just to see his face, to waking up with him every morning." HE'S ALWAYS AS CLOSE AS YOUR HEART!

Miranda said...

smiles big....I feel the love. (((Big hugs)))

Sunny Delight said...

Sigh, will try this comment thing again...the last one got lost in the ether of the internet...


It has been said quite well already by previous commenters...most eloquently by JAC, I can only echo her...listen do you hear it? *S*

I personally can't wait until you get here!

~offering free driving lessons~ from someone who has made all the mistakes a driver can make...*VBS*

Sal Ca pwn said...

You'll lose all the old baggage in your life, and you'll gain all the love you so richly deserve.

And........ You get to drive!!! Whoo Hoo!!!! :o)

D said...

And of course Fiona you have moved miles before for different reasons but never for such a wonderful one. Those welcome homes sure will be special with Lupo going to fetch his slippers !!!

Fiona said...

Charmed - thank you! :)

Deb - Love is in the air tra la laaaaa....gosh that song takes me back :)

Jac - hahahahhahah oh my goodness thank you so much for that!! And you're absolutely right. I can't wait to be closer to my special galpals, you and Sunny :) That was wonderful...big big hug!! :)

Miranda - I just can't keep it in :) huuuuuuuuuugs

Sunny - *cups hand to ear* echooooooooo yes I hear it *L* I might take you up on the driving, my second car is going to be a mustang convertible, that's already been negotiated ;)

Sal!! - LOL I wondered who that was, you nut!! You're absolutely right about the love, he gives me so much every day that I sometimes think I'm going to burst :)

D - Yes, this is the real deal. I've never been so sure of anything in my life. It's a lifelong thing :) And absolutely, Lupo will fit in perfectly, he loves men! :)

Fusion said...

*VBS*

And thank you again.

I say that alot don't I?

You better invite us all to the wedding ;)

freebird said...

AS I said before, with the love bit right everything else will fall into place - even things that would otherwise seem very scary. There's one thing you mustn't change too much though, Fi - please keep blogging, it's going to be so exciting to read about!

LePhare said...

I urge caution, especially learning to drive. They all drive on the wrong side of the road in the U.S!

Fiona said...

Fusion - as always, de nada :)

FB - me stop blogging? Never ;)

Ian - I hear ya! It's hard enough remembering to look the 'wrong way' when crossing a road :)

anna said...

I'm so excited for you!!! I actually squealed with delight!

I don't want to be too nosey, but I can't help it. WHEN???! When are you moving? And where? For some reason I thought I read Seattle somewhere, but I'm not sure about that and I'm hoping you'll be close enough that I might get to meet you some day. :) Yes, yes... I'm selfish.

Serenity said...

I loved this post. It is the loveliest thing, literally... you see the future clearly, and it looks good.. full of hope and dreams and such good vibes. Sweet. :)

Fiona said...

Anna - thank you so much!! I sent you an email ;)

Serenity - yes, we are so very sure about being so very sure :) When you know, you just know. The hardest part now is the waiting, but we can do that, we have so much to look forward to. Thank you :)

Charmed said...

I just read a comment you made on Maria's blog; "If you're sure about your love, it will work out." Wow! That makes so much sense.

I don't know where you are moving in the US, but if it is anywhere near KY, you are invited to my home to enjoy some southern hospitality. And all the sweet tea you can drink!

Fiona said...

Charmed - you have to have faith in it. Because there are many things that could have derailed us so easily without it. We both have had faith, even when we circumstances looked like they would prevent us from being together. And then what do you know...here we are today, with firm plans for our future :)

Thank you for the invitation :)

 

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